While pregnant I felt like the most gorgeous thing that ever walked the planet, well up until the last month anyway! Before the last month my self esteem was probably at an all time high. Every time I went into public heads turned and everyone smiled at me. They would look lovingly at my belly, strike up conversation about the gender, name, among other pregnancy questions, with wonder in their eyes. I was at the store once and was told how beautiful I looked while pregnant. Let’s just say pregnancy glow is a VERY real thing. Then there’s the end of pregnancy… I’m sure you can relate to that end of pregnancy feeling if you’ve been through it before. The swollen ankles, hands, and face along with the double chin make you feel like a beached whale. People talk about post postpartum depression a lot, but self esteem after baby is something completely different and never discussed. I feel like this is something that needs to be addressed because most of the mothers I talk to say they felt the same way after giving birth.
After my son was born I felt disgusting physically as most new mothers do. We have to wear adult diapers, baggy clothes, and had put on quite a bit of extra weight while pregnant. After baby arrived I never had time to do my hair or makeup anymore so I felt like an unattractive cow. If I saw someone that was all dolled up, I felt even worse about my appearance. It may not matter what anyone else thinks, but your self esteem takes the hit. So do what you need to do to feel better and attractive again. Go get a new hair cut, pedicure, work out, get some new sexy clothes. DO IT. This is the aspect that hit me most and I felt so ugly and insecure until I started to do some of these things. Now I force myself to get ready every morning because I know I’ll feel SO much better after I do.
My son is 4 months old now and I still feel like I repeat the same activities all day long, day after day between feeding my son, changing his diaper, pumping, and washing pump equipment and bottles. Don’t get me wrong, it is a truly blessing to stay home with my son and take care of him, but sometimes I need a sanity break to feel like myself again. Pick up an old or new hobby, get out of the house, and enjoy life. You will have more self esteem and feel like yourself again, trust me!
While there is no way around this with a new baby, I’ll just put it out there that every emotion is amplified when it comes to sleep deprivation and hormones. I am telling you, my hormones were NOTHING when I was pregnant compared to after I had my son. I think it was due to the lack of sleep, and the two bold topics stated above…daily activities and physical appearance. All I can say about this topic and self esteem is that you’ll feel SO much better once baby starts sleeping longer at night. I didn’t have energy to get ready or leave the house when I was never getting any sleep. Now that he sleeps most of the night and only wakes up once to eat and a couple times for comfort, I feel like a human again and am back doing most normal activities and hobbies, such as this post!
I know self esteem is a big part of your emotional health so if you ever feel exhausted beyond what you can handle, reach out to a family member or friend. If you don’t have anyone to turn to, make sure you talk to your doctor because postpartum depression is something that you need to be constantly aware of and on the lookout for serious signs. If you are feeling desperate, get help!Make sure to follow Artsy Mama Bear on Facebook, Pinterest, and Instagram, or subscribe to our Weekly Newsletter! :) This post may contain affiliate links, read our Disclosure Policy for more information.