The realization that led me to co-sleeping was so unexpected. I have never wanted to co-sleep for many reasons. Personal space, fear of rolling onto the baby, fear of the baby wanting to sleep in my bed until they are 10, lack of intimacy with my husband, and the list goes on and on. Obviously this just like any other parenting topic is left to opinion and everyone is different so I never judged anyone else for doing this, but I knew it wasn’t for me.
When my son was born all the way up until he was about 4 months old, he slept wonderfully in his crib in my room at night and never woke up except when he was hungry. Then suddenly he was waking up throughout the night just crying, even though he wouldn’t take his milk. I even ended up taking him to the doctor to see if he had an ear infection or if I was missing something. She said it was probably gas since he looked healthy as could be. Well… it’s been a month and a half and it still hasn’t ended. Since he was waking up so many times at night crying and I was so exhausted I would sometimes put him in my bed for a few hours because he always stopped crying when I held him.
I tried just about everything under the sun trying to figure out what was bothering him. I tried moving the night light closer to his crib, moving his crib away from the corner thinking he might be scared, white noise vs silence, sleep sac vs no sleep sac, temperature adjustments, trying to give him more milk, rubbing his tummy, you NAME it- I tried it.
So…THIS week something changed. Usually I put him down in his crib and I stay up for another 2 hours after he goes to sleep until I pump and go to bed. I call this ME TIME – where I blog, do the dishes, exercise, have a snack, brush teeth, get ready for bed, or anything else that I need or want to do. Well, he started waking up every 5 minutes or so – sometimes the second I put him down in his crib. 3 nights ago this went on for 1 hour & 45 minutes. Let’s just say I was feeling like he and I couldn’t take it anymore so I ended up bringing him to my bed. He slept the entire night until about 6am without waking up.
I woke up before he did and was just studying his adorable little face, looking so peaceful and safe when it hit me… he got this from me. I had a realization that made me decide that I would allow him to sleep in my bed at night from the start…at least for the first 9-12 months of his life. I am a grown adult and I’d cuddle with my husband all night if he’d let me. Back in our honeymoon days we actually would but my husband soon told me that he needed space to sleep and he had been losing a lot. How could I be so blind? I love to cuddle with my husband for the same reasons my son loves to cuddle with me. He is my protector, my provider, my world. How could I expect a little 5 month old baby to understand the reasons I didn’t want him in my bed? After I realized the reason, and that I have the power to give him a restful night of sleep just by being present with him…why wouldn’t I?Make sure to follow Artsy Mama Bear on Facebook, Pinterest, and Instagram, or subscribe to our Weekly Newsletter! :) This post may contain affiliate links, read our Disclosure Policy for more information.