It’s the easiest job ever, I wouldn’t even call it a job…that’s totally easy, I bet she just sits around and watches TV all day and eats bon bons…I don’t have to tell you how many people have voiced their assumption about stay at home moms. Those who tease and ask for so many favors because you “don’t work”… To those who have said this, I hope you enjoy this stay at home mom job description…it’s not what you think.
Aside from substitute teaching and long term substitute teaching, I have not worked out of the home since I got married and graduated college. Many may say that I have wasted my time, wasted my education, and have been selfish because I have not brought home a big financial contribution. Aside from the fact that it is nobody’s business aside from my husband and I, it’s time to put a stop to this. I have worked hard for years before having my son to establish a good blog following here and on my Katie’s Crochet website, along with my photography business in order to provide me a way to earn money while being a stay at home mom. I clean the home I have been blessed with, clean and fold clothes that fill our closets, cook meals, wash dishes, pack lunches, among many other things!
A day in the life of a stay at home mom is anything but boring…
My day doesn’t start at 9am and end at 5pm…it’s 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, for the next 18+ years.
My son usually wakes up about 5am (sometimes as early as 2am), I hear him moving around and starting to whine, I try to make it to the bathroom before he loses it completely, but that’s never successful. Once I’m done he’s usually in full screaming mode, and I rush to get the bottle ready so he will calm down. He cries until the bottle is finally placed in his mouth, and then I feed him, burp him, feed him, burp him, then change his diaper. I get him back to sleep and put him down. After that I pump and then wash his bottle and the pump equipment. I am so lucky that my son goes right back to sleep after this feeding most of the time.
I try to get up about 30 minutes-1 hour before he will wake up for the day so I can shower, do my hair, makeup, and get dressed to resemble a human being for the day. Sometimes I fail and sleep until he wakes up and don’t have time to do all of these “normal” things, except I will shower while he lays in the crib and either plays happily, or screams violently. I change his diaper and we head to the kitchen so I can feed him his baby food. He’s fairly calm unless he woke up at 2am to eat…if that’s the case he’s crying because he’s hungry and he continues to be fussy and difficult to feed. I make his breakfast and feed him, while I eat my breakfast at the same time or I won’t eat. I wipe him up, and the highchair and surrounding area, do the dishes, and get his water ready. He has had serious constipation issues so I have to force feed him 2 ounces of water after he eats which takes about 15 minutes. Then I pump again, which takes about 20 minutes from start to finish. While I pump my son is usually getting tired and losing his cool. I make the bed and clean up the room a little bit.
When I finish I wash the pump equipment, change him and get him ready for his morning nap, anywhere between 11-11:30. He usually can’t fight this nap very hard because he’s most tired at this time. Once he is asleep I put him down and head out to the kitchen. His nap lasts anywhere from about 20-4o minutes, so I come sit on the computer for about 20 minutes then start a load of laundry. When he wakes up, I’m usually in the middle of lunch and have to stop so I can feed him his bottle. After that I finish my lunch, do the dishes, and play with him for a little bit. My laundry is done, so I fold it and then take out the garbage and empty the diaper genie. I read him some books, maybe go for a walk or a short visit to the cousin’s house.
About 2 hours after he went down for his first nap, I change his diaper again and get him ready for his next nap. This one he usually fights a little more even though he has been rubbing his eyes and whining – clearly tired. I sing to him and try to console him so he can relax and sleep. It’s a little more challenging to put him down this time as he’s trying to stay awake. Once he’s asleep I pump and as I’m washing the bottles he wakes up. I need to use the bathroom so I do that while he starts to get impatient and cry. He’s been asleep about 30 minutes when he wakes up. I make any phone calls or schedule any appointments that I need to do at this time. I put him down for some tummy time and clean up the room and clean the toilet or shower, sink & counter in the bathroom. By the time I’m getting to the end he’s getting impatient and usually cries the last 5 minutes or so. By this time he needs another diaper change, he pees on me so I have to change my clothes and the cover for his change pad, along with the clothes he was wearing. This process takes about 10 minutes After that I feed him a few ounces so he can last until dinner.
I play with him for a little bit before I start dinner, I bring his playmat into the kitchen and get him settled and happy before I begin. Once I’m in the middle of making food he loses it and wants to be picked up, so I put him in my baby carrier and continue making food and eat. Once I’m done eating I do the dishes. He’s starting to get hungry for dinner at this time so I get him into his seat, make his baby food, get his water ready for after, and feed him. Once he’s done I feed him his water (15 minutes) and then wash the bottle, along with everything from his dinner. By this time I need to pump again so I do that and then wash the pump equipment. If the weather is nice we might go for a short walk, or visit with family, then start out bedtime routine. I get his bath water ready and remove the dirty diaper. Get him into the bath and wash him up. Once he’s out he gets a fresh diaper and clean pajamas, I put on his lotion and clean his ears. We head to the kitchen and prepare his milk for bed and early morning feeding. I get his 8 ounces for bed ready and get it into the bottle warmer, then I get 6 ounces into another bottle and put it in the fridge so it’s ready whenever he wakes up for it at night/early morning. I take him to the room and feed him his milk in the dark with the nightlight on so he understands it’s time to sleep. He falls asleep quickly and I go to the kitchen to wash his bottle. He wakes up about 4 or 5 times between 8pm-10pm while I’m out in the kitchen on the computer…usually blogging (as I am right now) Whenever he wakes up I have to take a break and get him back to sleep again. I’m not sure why he does this but I think it has to do with me not being in the room with him and it’s dark.
My son usually wakes up many times as night when I put him in the crib, it can range from 3-6 or more…although when I put him in my bed he sleeps all night long. At the moment I am trying to get him to stay in his crib so I have a little more freedom after he goes to bed and I worry since he’s started rolling around a LOT, I feel much better about him being in a safer sleeping space. Although, you’ll see details on the realization that led me to co-sleep for a while and still do when I get exhausted from waking up with him so much.
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