It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married for 10 months or 10 years, these 8 things your wife wants to hear are pretty accurate regardless of how long you have been married. If you don’t regularly do these, try to focus on one at a time and bookmark this page so you can come back to it periodically to refresh your memory. I can tell you she won’t ever get sick of hearing them…
I’m proud of you. I can’t tell you how much this means to me when my husband says it to me… I can guarantee you that your wife needs to hear you say this. When she works hard at home, school, work, being a mother. You name it. It’s a great reminder that she is doing something right, and trust me positive reinforcement will make her try even harder. Focus on what she does well and right, and praise her for it.
Thank you. This is SO important in a marriage. Did your wife make you dinner after a sleepless night or busy day? Pack you a lunch for work? Make a constant effort to ensure you never run out of clean clothes? Maybe she works out of the home and does all she can to make a large contribution financially. Trust me when I say your wife will be much happier and want to continue to do things for you when you show you appreciate her.
I miss you. If you are apart from your wife with lots of distance between the two of you, or you are just at work, take a minute – wait, make that 5 seconds to send her a text that you miss her. Send her a message about a memory that crossed your mind. It is extra flattering when you just saw her that morning. She will feel so special that you are thinking about her in the middle of the day without having a reason to do so.
I’m so glad I married you. This is especially important after you have a fight, or you have been out of sync. Marriages have ups and downs, and it’s completely normal to have periods when there is a lot going on and it’s hard to connect. Take the time to make an extra effort during these difficult times. This is the perfect time to remind her of your confidence in your choice if she has been feeling like you may be doubting the decision you made.
FLIRT with her. Don’t let the fire burn out just because you signed a piece of paper. She married you after you most likely spent much time courting her and showing how much you adore and love her. She needs to feel like you are still crazy about her. Take time out of your day to show you are thinking about her. Share stories and details about your day at work. Joke around with her and send her cute messages. Try just as hard or harder than you did before you got married…because now you’re in it for the long haul. Marriage is serious…and hard at times, give it all you got!
You are such a good wife/mother. Even if she knows she works as hard as she can to do a great job at being a good wife or mother, she still needs to hear she’s doing a good job. These are two of the hardest jobs, hearing you’re doing it right will help her relax and sleep better at night…not to mention feel appreciated and special.
You are my best friend. Once children come along, you may feel like you just talk about when the baby pooped last, what items you need from the store, taking turns watching the baby so the other one gets to do other household chores or shopping. Don’t forget to unwind, connect with each other WITHOUT other distractions. Tell her she’s your best friend. The last thing she wants is to feel like a chore to you. Make sure she knows you’d rather spend time with her than anyone else. That spending time with her is your most valued activity.Make sure to follow Artsy Mama Bear on Facebook, Pinterest, and Instagram, or subscribe to our Weekly Newsletter! :) This post may contain affiliate links, read our Disclosure Policy for more information.